Good day lovelies! Today I wanted to share with you some things I’ve learned over the past several years, weather it’s from my own personal experiences or some outside source, about how to de-stress and add some balance back to your life. We all have days or even weeks that feel so much harder than others and I’m not here to tell you that this will ever stop, it’s just life. At times it can feel like things are just perfect and then all of the sudden things seem to fall completely out of balance and what do we do? We STRESS OUT. And if you’re a woman, stress can come up literally out of nowhere and for no reason at all.
For almost everyone, life being “out of balance” is more of an internal feeling. You just feel like things are off, missing, or incomplete; you feel like something needs to be fixed or corrected and this causes stress when you can’t fix it or you don’t know how. Let me just say, there are going to be times when things just suck and there’s really not much that we need to do about it other than binge watch This is Us and eat ice cream. Sometimes this is the cure! And this is totally fine.
If you’re like me, you feel stress 5/7 days a week. I’m a full time student (15 hours, 2 capstone courses) + I’m planning/paying for/constantly thinking about my wedding + I work full time + I’m a “wife” at home meaning I wash clothes-fold clothes-put away clothes 2 or more times a week, do dishes, clean, cook (which I don’t always do but it kind of stresses me out when I don’t because then I eat bad) + try to maintain a social life and stress a little bit when I can’t + try to find time to do something I actually love doing. So what’s the main feeling I have almost constantly? While I’m getting ahead in one thing, I’m falling behind in another; there simply isn’t enough time in the day. Each time I realize what I’m falling behind in=STRESS.
Each of us handles stress differently. Some people over-eat, some people don’t eat, some cry, some hide, some pick fights with their s/o or family members, some watch Titanic 3 times in a row, some drink, some purposely participate in destructive behavior because, hell, why not? And some people just know how to handle it. Do you know what effect stress has on your body? Check this out.
I’m going to share my tools for helping us- BOTH of us because I need a reminder too.
You are fully aware of the exact moment you feel stress. You know you’re stressed. It’s almost as if your brain tells you “God Karen, you are stressed. UGH.” In this moment, stop thinking and find a quiet place. Close your eyes and breathe slow deep breaths for 15 or so seconds, longer if you wish. Yoga and meditation are highly recommended as a daily exercise for healthier living. Both of these daily rituals include slow, deep breathing.