The Art of Getting What You Want

Good Morning lovely readers! Spring is here which means it’s time for some Spring cleaning and new beginnings. Today, I’m going to write about the art of getting what you want. Please know that there are numerous books on this topic and I encourage you to read them!

The greatest book I’ve read so far on this topic is called How to Win Friends and Influence People, an all-time best seller. It was published in 1936 which makes it even more interesting to read. The author, Dale Carnegie, actually met several influential presidents and he’s included lessons from his interviews with them in this book. Among those presidents are Theodore Roosevelt and Franklin D. Roosevelt. Several other leaders from our history are also quoted. This book is amazing, an absolute must read!

So, yes, there is an art to getting what you want and no, it isn’t manipulative or dishonest. Think about someone you know that’s always struggling. No matter what they are struggling with, does it seem like every time you talk to this person they are negative? Always complaining? Sad or just generally unhappy? Now think of the opposite. The person that seems to have it all figured out; happy and positive. What do you think the difference between the two of these people is?

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Why I have a Wedding Planner & you should too

I know what you’re thinkin’: “Yes Stacy, okay, we all know why having a wedding Planner is great- she does the work for you, blah blah.”

That’s probably a mere 10% of the reason why you should hire a wedding Planner/Coordinator. Let me set the mood…

Chances are, once you’re engaged, the following will occur in almost exact order:

Ask if he’s serious. Cry happy tears. Say yes. Ask if he’s serious. Hug him. Ask if he’s serious. Cry more. Call EVERYONE forgetting at least 5 important people. Feel overwhelmed and giddy at the same time. Tell the story of how he proposed 79 times. Answer questions you haven’t even thought about yet such as “When’s the date?” “Where are you going to get married?” And once all the people are told, Facebook is updated, you’ve had your time to calm down…you’ll open your Pinterest and visit your wedding boards. *YAY.*

Girls, raise your hand if you’ve been pinning stuff to your wedding boards since the first day you downloaded Pinterest? *My hand is raised.* You pinned those ideas with the intention of bringing them to life one day, right? I bet you pinned allllll those glorious ideas without thinking about several things, but especially this one thing: it’s every bride’s worst nightmare; a crusher of dreams; an unavoidable monster; a show stopper. The Budget.

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Let’s be honest, Pinterest is the dream world we get to live in where we plan our perfect wedding, build our dream home, get in shape, and cook glorious meals…but never actually do 95% of it. But you never thought this would happen with these pins. These are your wedding ideas! They are EVERYTHING. This is the moment when you get to actually use your Pinterest!


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My Tips for de-Stressing & Balancing Your Life

Good day lovelies! Today I wanted to share with you some things I’ve learned over the past several years, weather it’s from my own personal experiences or some outside source, about how to de-stress and add some balance back to your life. We all have days or even weeks that feel so much harder than others and I’m not here to tell you that this will ever stop, it’s just life. At times it can feel like things are just perfect and then all of the sudden things seem to fall completely out of balance and what do we do? We STRESS OUT. And if you’re a woman, stress can come up literally out of nowhere and for no reason at all.

For almost everyone, life being “out of balance” is more of an internal feeling. You just feel like things are off, missing, or incomplete; you feel like something needs to be fixed or corrected and this causes stress when you can’t fix it or you don’t know how. Let me just say, there are going to be times when things just suck and there’s really not much that we need to do about it other than binge watch This is Us and eat ice cream. Sometimes this is the cure! And this is totally fine.

If you’re like me, you feel stress 5/7 days a week. I’m a full time student (15 hours, 2 capstone courses) + I’m planning/paying for/constantly thinking about my wedding + I work full time + I’m a “wife” at home meaning I wash clothes-fold clothes-put away clothes 2 or more times a week, do dishes, clean, cook (which I don’t always do but it kind of stresses me out when I don’t because then I eat bad) + try to maintain a social life and stress a little bit when I can’t + try to find time to do something I actually love doing. So what’s the main feeling I have almost constantly? While I’m getting ahead in one thing, I’m falling behind in another; there simply isn’t enough time in the day. Each time I realize what I’m falling behind in=STRESS.

Each of us handles stress differently. Some people over-eat, some people don’t eat, some cry, some hide, some pick fights with their s/o or family members, some watch Titanic 3 times in a row, some drink, some purposely participate in destructive behavior because, hell, why not? And some people just know how to handle it. Do you know what effect stress has on your body? Check this out.

I’m going to share my tools for helping us- BOTH of us because I need a reminder too.

  1. Breathe.

You are fully aware of the exact moment you feel stress. You know you’re stressed. It’s almost as if your brain tells you “God Karen, you are stressed. UGH.” In this moment, stop thinking and find a quiet place. Close your eyes and breathe slow deep breaths for 15 or so seconds, longer if you wish. Yoga and meditation are highly recommended as a daily exercise for healthier living. Both of these daily rituals include slow, deep breathing.

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